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Tuesday, July 7, 2009
Sunday, July 5, 2009
Secrets of A Romantic Couple
A romantic couple has a better chance of a happy marriage. When a relationship is new, it often is filled with romance. Over time, however, we tend to get busied by everyday life, like children, work, stress, fatigue, unresolved conflict, and misplaced priorities. We feel we just don't have time or energy for romance. While we can't get rid of all of these responsibilities and obligations, we can make conscious, thoughtful choices about how we respond to them. These responses can make us a more romantic couple.
We can decide that, rather than simply going with the flow of life, it's important to regularly step back from the flow and see your mate and your marriage with refreshed perspective. Look with new eyes and a new attitude that says, "This is the most important person in life to me, and I want every choice I make, every action I take, to reflect that truth." If one or both of you can maintain that perspective in your marriage, you'll see your romance-quotient go way up as you become a more romantic couple.
Tips to become a more romantic couple:
• Romantic Couple Tip 1 - Spend fun time alone together
Spend plenty of time engaged in enjoyable activities. Go for a walk, and hold hands. Enjoy meals out together—even if it's just a picnic. Make passionate love to each other in ways that are mutually satisfying and meaningful. Try something you haven't done together before—attend a play, take in a roller derby, ride on a roller coaster, go fishing. The possibilities are endless, but the point is simply to find ways to have fun together, increasing the feelings of warmth and enjoyment as a romantic couple.
• Romantic Couple Tip 2 - Dream together
Become a more romantic couple by developing shared dreams for your relationship and your life together, and make plans that will help you make those dreams into reality. Working side-by-side toward a common goal can be very romantic.
• Romantic Couple Tip 3 - Look at each other
Remember when you first met? How you gazed and smiled at each other? There's just something about positive eye contact and warm smiles that can light the fire within a romantic couple’s hearts and excite a relationship like nothing else.
• Romantic Couple Tip 4 - Build each other up
Work on spending more and more time encouraging and supporting each other. What do you love about your spouse, that brought you together as a romantic couple in the first place? Communicate what you admire about each other, and why you like being together.
• Romantic Couple Tip 5 - Do little things
Do little things that say, "I care about you," "You mean a lot to me," and "I'm glad you are in my life." Write a simple note that says, "I love you," or bring home some special thing you know your spouse likes. An unexpected caress or a compliment can go a long way in boosting the feelings of a romantic couple, feelings of love and mutual appreciation for the gift you are to each other.
Becoming a more romantic couple isn't so much about learning new skills; it's more often about forgetting routine, predictable patterns. It's important for your love affair that you don't take each other for granted. Dare to find new, creative, and even surprising ways to express your care for your partner. Take some chances, try some new expressions of love, and put energy into the process. You may find, as many have, that the flames of love can be fanned in such a way as to make you and your spouse a more giving, special and romantic couple.
source: http://marriage.eharmony.com/advice/marriage-tips-8.html
We can decide that, rather than simply going with the flow of life, it's important to regularly step back from the flow and see your mate and your marriage with refreshed perspective. Look with new eyes and a new attitude that says, "This is the most important person in life to me, and I want every choice I make, every action I take, to reflect that truth." If one or both of you can maintain that perspective in your marriage, you'll see your romance-quotient go way up as you become a more romantic couple.
Tips to become a more romantic couple:
• Romantic Couple Tip 1 - Spend fun time alone together
Spend plenty of time engaged in enjoyable activities. Go for a walk, and hold hands. Enjoy meals out together—even if it's just a picnic. Make passionate love to each other in ways that are mutually satisfying and meaningful. Try something you haven't done together before—attend a play, take in a roller derby, ride on a roller coaster, go fishing. The possibilities are endless, but the point is simply to find ways to have fun together, increasing the feelings of warmth and enjoyment as a romantic couple.
• Romantic Couple Tip 2 - Dream together
Become a more romantic couple by developing shared dreams for your relationship and your life together, and make plans that will help you make those dreams into reality. Working side-by-side toward a common goal can be very romantic.
• Romantic Couple Tip 3 - Look at each other
Remember when you first met? How you gazed and smiled at each other? There's just something about positive eye contact and warm smiles that can light the fire within a romantic couple’s hearts and excite a relationship like nothing else.
• Romantic Couple Tip 4 - Build each other up
Work on spending more and more time encouraging and supporting each other. What do you love about your spouse, that brought you together as a romantic couple in the first place? Communicate what you admire about each other, and why you like being together.
• Romantic Couple Tip 5 - Do little things
Do little things that say, "I care about you," "You mean a lot to me," and "I'm glad you are in my life." Write a simple note that says, "I love you," or bring home some special thing you know your spouse likes. An unexpected caress or a compliment can go a long way in boosting the feelings of a romantic couple, feelings of love and mutual appreciation for the gift you are to each other.
Becoming a more romantic couple isn't so much about learning new skills; it's more often about forgetting routine, predictable patterns. It's important for your love affair that you don't take each other for granted. Dare to find new, creative, and even surprising ways to express your care for your partner. Take some chances, try some new expressions of love, and put energy into the process. You may find, as many have, that the flames of love can be fanned in such a way as to make you and your spouse a more giving, special and romantic couple.
source: http://marriage.eharmony.com/advice/marriage-tips-8.html
Saturday, July 4, 2009
WHAT GIRLS LOOK FOR
A girl's mind works in strange ways-as if you didn't know-and the things that attract them to men are mostly NOT what you expect . Here's what they are( not necessarily in order of importance ) :--
Honesty
Sense of humor
Eye contact
Smiles
Personality
Confidence
Maturity
Sensitivity
Looks (this one is definitely in the right place in order of importance!)
Ever noticed how a girl goes completely berserk when she finds out you've lied . What's all the fuss about? you think . The big fuss they make tells you something crucial -- HONESTY is very very important to girls. Remember this if you are naturally honest and use your honesty to full advantage. Be honest with her even if your natural instinct in a particular situation is not to be . If you are naturally dishonest conceal this at all costs-you're probably good at that anyway!
A good sense of humor is amazingly attractive to most girls . They want a man who is FUN to be with .If you can make a girl laugh you're 90% there . If you have a good sense of humor-use it at every appropriate opportunity . If you haven't- WORK on it - and develop one . This can be done - watch those that have this and use their techniques - try the one that suits your personality best-experiment .
EYE-CONTACT is in my opinion the single most important factor in your success and for this reason I will go into this in more detail later . (similarly with SMILES )
A strong personality draws most girls . They really do go for a man who knows what he wants to do - no matter what anybody else thinks about him .
Girls are also drawn to confident men who are assertive , positive and don't dither . If you are less than confident - don't show it . LOOK CONFIDENT . How do you do this? TRY-study body language , either get a book on this or just observe & imitate any confident men you see around you . Stand up straight ,never fidget , head up high , slow ,steady movements and above all EYE to EYE contact at all times. You know the things I mean -observe & learn & apply .
Maturity is a big turn on with most girls . This is one reason that quite a lot find older men attractive . So it usually pays to act pretty sensibly when you're with girls ( not to the extent that you lose your sense of humor and fun of course ). Drinking beer until it comes out of your ears, falling over senseless and going on the rampage might be a good laugh when you're with the lads but it won't impress her. She might laugh but inside she'll be eaten up with embarrassment.
A lot of men think that girls are turned on by very macho men - but most girls think completely the OPPOSITE . Girls like their men to be sensitive . Don't take this too far , girls want their men to act like men but try and mix being a man with being caring and sensitive . A heady cocktail that girls find irresistible ! If you find something 'nice' or 'pretty' or something upsets you - tell her. You'll be surprised how much she warms to you . Especially if the something nice or pretty is about her!!
Whilst girls obviously go for good looks and a decent body it comes surprisingly LOW on THEIR list of priorities . By itself it doesn't turn them on like it does men . Ask a girl if she is turned on by these things , she will probably say yes but deep down a girl knows she can't find any man a turn-on unless he CARES for her too.
For this reason , if you are worried about your looks and body (and who isn't?)-put your worry out of your mind and concentrate on the things given in this book that girls want . This is probably the hardest thing that you have to do in the entire book.
source: http://www.datingclass.com/successful/what-girls-look-for.shtml
Honesty
Sense of humor
Eye contact
Smiles
Personality
Confidence
Maturity
Sensitivity
Looks (this one is definitely in the right place in order of importance!)
Ever noticed how a girl goes completely berserk when she finds out you've lied . What's all the fuss about? you think . The big fuss they make tells you something crucial -- HONESTY is very very important to girls. Remember this if you are naturally honest and use your honesty to full advantage. Be honest with her even if your natural instinct in a particular situation is not to be . If you are naturally dishonest conceal this at all costs-you're probably good at that anyway!
A good sense of humor is amazingly attractive to most girls . They want a man who is FUN to be with .If you can make a girl laugh you're 90% there . If you have a good sense of humor-use it at every appropriate opportunity . If you haven't- WORK on it - and develop one . This can be done - watch those that have this and use their techniques - try the one that suits your personality best-experiment .
EYE-CONTACT is in my opinion the single most important factor in your success and for this reason I will go into this in more detail later . (similarly with SMILES )
A strong personality draws most girls . They really do go for a man who knows what he wants to do - no matter what anybody else thinks about him .
Girls are also drawn to confident men who are assertive , positive and don't dither . If you are less than confident - don't show it . LOOK CONFIDENT . How do you do this? TRY-study body language , either get a book on this or just observe & imitate any confident men you see around you . Stand up straight ,never fidget , head up high , slow ,steady movements and above all EYE to EYE contact at all times. You know the things I mean -observe & learn & apply .
Maturity is a big turn on with most girls . This is one reason that quite a lot find older men attractive . So it usually pays to act pretty sensibly when you're with girls ( not to the extent that you lose your sense of humor and fun of course ). Drinking beer until it comes out of your ears, falling over senseless and going on the rampage might be a good laugh when you're with the lads but it won't impress her. She might laugh but inside she'll be eaten up with embarrassment.
A lot of men think that girls are turned on by very macho men - but most girls think completely the OPPOSITE . Girls like their men to be sensitive . Don't take this too far , girls want their men to act like men but try and mix being a man with being caring and sensitive . A heady cocktail that girls find irresistible ! If you find something 'nice' or 'pretty' or something upsets you - tell her. You'll be surprised how much she warms to you . Especially if the something nice or pretty is about her!!
Whilst girls obviously go for good looks and a decent body it comes surprisingly LOW on THEIR list of priorities . By itself it doesn't turn them on like it does men . Ask a girl if she is turned on by these things , she will probably say yes but deep down a girl knows she can't find any man a turn-on unless he CARES for her too.
For this reason , if you are worried about your looks and body (and who isn't?)-put your worry out of your mind and concentrate on the things given in this book that girls want . This is probably the hardest thing that you have to do in the entire book.
source: http://www.datingclass.com/successful/what-girls-look-for.shtml
Thursday, July 2, 2009
Top 10 Things Wives Want From Their Husbands
In no particular order, here are ten things that many wives want from their husbands.
Note that these are "wants" -- not emotional needs. As individuals, we are each responsible for filling our own emotional needs.
We believe that the four basic emotional needs are the need to be loved and to love; the need to belong; the need for a good self-image; and the need for autonomy.
1. Telling Her Daily That She is Loved
Everyone wants to be affirmed. Everyone wants to know they are loved. The best ways to say "I love you" are usually in simple, everyday, seemingly unimportant ways like an unexpected hug or holding hands when you walk together.
2. Understanding and Forgiveness
There will be days when your wife will make mistakes or when she will be difficult to be around. No one is perfect. She both wants and deserves your willingness to understand and forgive her. Remember that no relationship can be sustained without forgiveness.
3. Conversation
Don't let your conversations with your wife dwindle to nothing but talk about your kids, your jobs, and the weather. If that happens, your marriage relationship could be in real trouble.
4. Willingness to Make Time for Her and Your Children
Having quality time with your wife and kids isn't something that just happens. You have to make it happen by not only making the plans but by following through. Time with those you love has to be a high priority for you.
5. Saying "Yes" More Than Saying "No"
Habitual negative responses to your wife and kids can push them away from you. Think twice before saying "no" and you will be surprised at how saying "yes" can improve your relationships.
6. Listening Well
It's really disheartening for a wife to share her thoughts and feelings with her mate and then realize that he didn't actually listen to her. Your wife wants you to not only listen with your ears, but to listen with your heart.
7. Affection and Kindness
How often do you say "please" or "thank you" or give your spouse an unexpected kiss? Unfortunately, some married couples forget that being kind and affectionate to one another are keys to a successful marriage.
8. Sharing Household and Child Rearing Responsibilities.
One of the main reasons couples fight is conflict over who is doing what around the house. Chores and child care are not the sole responsibility of your wife. She shouldn't have to ask you to do your share around the house.
9. A Day Off Now and Then
Don't fuss about your wife taking a day off several times a month. This means that she will be free from worrying about what is happening with the kids, the house, the pets, and you. She deserves this break in her schedule and she needs to provide it for herself to be emotionally and physically healthy.
10. Commitment to Take Care of Yourself Both Physically and Emotionally
Many men are notorious for not taking care of themselves when it comes to health issues. This isn't fair to your wife. She is your lover not your mother. Take responsibility for your own health concerns.
source: http://marriage.about.com/od/marriagetoolbox/tp/wiveswant.htm, 07/02/09 1:20PM
Note that these are "wants" -- not emotional needs. As individuals, we are each responsible for filling our own emotional needs.
We believe that the four basic emotional needs are the need to be loved and to love; the need to belong; the need for a good self-image; and the need for autonomy.
1. Telling Her Daily That She is Loved
Everyone wants to be affirmed. Everyone wants to know they are loved. The best ways to say "I love you" are usually in simple, everyday, seemingly unimportant ways like an unexpected hug or holding hands when you walk together.
2. Understanding and Forgiveness
There will be days when your wife will make mistakes or when she will be difficult to be around. No one is perfect. She both wants and deserves your willingness to understand and forgive her. Remember that no relationship can be sustained without forgiveness.
3. Conversation
Don't let your conversations with your wife dwindle to nothing but talk about your kids, your jobs, and the weather. If that happens, your marriage relationship could be in real trouble.
4. Willingness to Make Time for Her and Your Children
Having quality time with your wife and kids isn't something that just happens. You have to make it happen by not only making the plans but by following through. Time with those you love has to be a high priority for you.
5. Saying "Yes" More Than Saying "No"
Habitual negative responses to your wife and kids can push them away from you. Think twice before saying "no" and you will be surprised at how saying "yes" can improve your relationships.
6. Listening Well
It's really disheartening for a wife to share her thoughts and feelings with her mate and then realize that he didn't actually listen to her. Your wife wants you to not only listen with your ears, but to listen with your heart.
7. Affection and Kindness
How often do you say "please" or "thank you" or give your spouse an unexpected kiss? Unfortunately, some married couples forget that being kind and affectionate to one another are keys to a successful marriage.
8. Sharing Household and Child Rearing Responsibilities.
One of the main reasons couples fight is conflict over who is doing what around the house. Chores and child care are not the sole responsibility of your wife. She shouldn't have to ask you to do your share around the house.
9. A Day Off Now and Then
Don't fuss about your wife taking a day off several times a month. This means that she will be free from worrying about what is happening with the kids, the house, the pets, and you. She deserves this break in her schedule and she needs to provide it for herself to be emotionally and physically healthy.
10. Commitment to Take Care of Yourself Both Physically and Emotionally
Many men are notorious for not taking care of themselves when it comes to health issues. This isn't fair to your wife. She is your lover not your mother. Take responsibility for your own health concerns.
source: http://marriage.about.com/od/marriagetoolbox/tp/wiveswant.htm, 07/02/09 1:20PM
Top 10 Things Husbands Want From Their Wives
In no particular order, here are ten things that many husbands want from their wives.
Note that these are "wants" -- not emotional needs. As individuals, we are each responsible for filling our own emotional needs.
We believe that the four basic emotional needs are the need to be loved and to love; the need to belong; the need for a good self-image; and the need for autonomy.
1. Believe in His Capabilities
Many men believe it is important for them to protect and provide for those they love. Let him know that you believe in his talents and skills and are supportive of him.
2. Understanding
One of the ways you can both tell and show your husband that you want to understand him is by making a commitment to daily dialogue with him. Daily dialogue only takes 20 minutes out of your day. Isn't your husband worth 20 minutes each day?
3. Affirmation of His Accomplishments
Most guys like to be patted on the back. Compliment your husband often. Just don't over do it with sicky sweet oozes of how great he is. That type of affirmation will backfire.
4. Acceptance
Many husbands are hurt and angered when their wives try to change them. Realize that the only person that you can change is yourself.
5. Less Chatter
If your husband is tired, or involved with a project, and you really want to talk to him about something, get to the point. If he wants the details of the topic, he will ask for them.
6. Affection
Hold your husband's hand in public, leave a message of love on his voice mail, massage his shoulders, give him an unexpected kiss. Men like to be romanced too!
7. Respect
Show respect for your husband by not making negative comments about his thoughts and opinions, by being considerate of his plans, and by avoiding the "eye roll" when listening to him.
8. Free Time
Most everyone has a desire for some quiet time alone, and time to re-energize, regroup, and reconnect. When your husband first gets home from work, allow him some free time to unwind. Don't over-schedule his days off with projects around the house.
9. Trust
Trust is vital in the success of a marriage. If you are having doubts about your husband and find it difficult to trust him, seek counseling and not spying.
10. To Be a Companion
Hopefully, you can say that your husband is not only your lover, but also your friend. Staying friends and companions through the years requires that you find ways to make time together and to do things together.
Source: http://marriage.about.com/od/marriagetoolbox/tp/husbandswant.htm, 07/02/09 1:12PM
Note that these are "wants" -- not emotional needs. As individuals, we are each responsible for filling our own emotional needs.
We believe that the four basic emotional needs are the need to be loved and to love; the need to belong; the need for a good self-image; and the need for autonomy.
1. Believe in His Capabilities
Many men believe it is important for them to protect and provide for those they love. Let him know that you believe in his talents and skills and are supportive of him.
2. Understanding
One of the ways you can both tell and show your husband that you want to understand him is by making a commitment to daily dialogue with him. Daily dialogue only takes 20 minutes out of your day. Isn't your husband worth 20 minutes each day?
3. Affirmation of His Accomplishments
Most guys like to be patted on the back. Compliment your husband often. Just don't over do it with sicky sweet oozes of how great he is. That type of affirmation will backfire.
4. Acceptance
Many husbands are hurt and angered when their wives try to change them. Realize that the only person that you can change is yourself.
5. Less Chatter
If your husband is tired, or involved with a project, and you really want to talk to him about something, get to the point. If he wants the details of the topic, he will ask for them.
6. Affection
Hold your husband's hand in public, leave a message of love on his voice mail, massage his shoulders, give him an unexpected kiss. Men like to be romanced too!
7. Respect
Show respect for your husband by not making negative comments about his thoughts and opinions, by being considerate of his plans, and by avoiding the "eye roll" when listening to him.
8. Free Time
Most everyone has a desire for some quiet time alone, and time to re-energize, regroup, and reconnect. When your husband first gets home from work, allow him some free time to unwind. Don't over-schedule his days off with projects around the house.
9. Trust
Trust is vital in the success of a marriage. If you are having doubts about your husband and find it difficult to trust him, seek counseling and not spying.
10. To Be a Companion
Hopefully, you can say that your husband is not only your lover, but also your friend. Staying friends and companions through the years requires that you find ways to make time together and to do things together.
Source: http://marriage.about.com/od/marriagetoolbox/tp/husbandswant.htm, 07/02/09 1:12PM
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